SANDRA HARMON

"Never give anything to a man, especially money or sex, without first determining what's in it for you."

Sandra Harmon has become the country's "#1 Love, Dating, Sex and Relationship Coach," since the success of her two best selling, self-help books, the powerful and ground breaking, "Getting To I Do," and its sequel, "Staying Married and Loving It" (William Morrow), written with Dr. Pat Allen.

Sandra's clients, many of whom are Hollywood superstars and studio power brokers, (she is known as The Love Coach To The Stars), and her unique approach for turning romantic fantasy into successful reality, has established her as the "go to" person for both men and women who want immediate and accurate answers to their love, dating, sex and relationship questions.

Sandra deals with the complex issues surrounding modern relationships. She offers a realistic blueprint for how to eliminate painful patterns in a relationship, brilliantly defines the four important stages of new relationships, from chemistry to commitment (and beyond) and coaches her clients in her uniquely successful methods for moving from one to another, without self-destructing.

Whether through her books, lectures and seminars or through her personal coaching, Sandra Harmon has helped thousands of people to finally find and keep the lasting love they had always longed for, but which previously had always alluded them.

Sandra is also a highly entertaining television personality and popular public speaker on relationship issues (and celebrity marriages). She is a frequent guest on such television shows as "Montel" and "Maury" and featured on radio and in newspapers and magazines, such as "Cosmopolitan Magazine.. She also writes a popular advice column on the Internet, "Ask Sandra", which she answers readers most pressing love problems and "Survive Dumping", in which she helps people get over the loss of love and find a new and healthier relationship.

Sandra recently shot a pilot for her own daily, half-hour television show called The Love Judge in which she solves couples relationship conflicts.

Sandra has also had an extraordinary career as a journalist, TV writer and film maker. She won an Emmy Award for writing the late-night talk show, "The Dick Cavett Show" for ABC-TV. She wrote and produced Real Life Stories, on Lifetime Television, and was the head writer of "The New Bill Cosby Show", an ABC-TV comedy variety series.

Sandra's popular first novel, the critically acclaimed, "A Girl Like Me", was published by Dutton Books. She also wrote and produced the television movie, "Fast Friends" for NBC, which was based on her own experiences as a writer on "The Dick Cavett Show". The film starred Dick Shawn as a popular talk show host who goes berserk on stage and is replaced by a young, unknown comedian, played by David Letterman At the time, Letterman was himself an unknown comedian until Sandra discovered him and cast him in her film.

Sandra also produced the highly acclaimed "Promises to Keep" a CBS television movie starring Claire Bloom and Robert Mitchum, Mitchum's real son, Chris Mitchum and his grandson, Bentley Mitchum. "Promises To Keep" tells the story of a family in crisis who finally come together when the grandfather makes amends, and in a case of reality imitating art, the shooting of the movie brought together the Mitchum family, who had been estranged for many years.

Sandra is also the co-author of the internationally known, runaway best-seller, "Elvis and Me" - (the story of Elvis Presley and Priscilla Presley - written with Priscilla Presley ) - which sold nearly one million copies in hard cover and three million in paperback and was, according to The Wall Street Journal, the tenth largest seller of the l980's, occupying the #l spot on the New York Times Best seller list for more than fifty weeks in both hard and soft cover.

Adapted for television by ABC,TV, "Elvis and Me" was then turned into one of the network's highest-rated four hour miniseries of all times, putting the paperback of "Elvis and Me" back on the best-seller list.

It was when Sandra was enjoying the fruits of being back on the New York Times Best-seller list for the second time that she went to her first Pat Allen seminar, and changed her love life forever.

As Sandra recalls, "At the time, I believed myself to be a thoroughly modern women: attractive, independent, confident, warm, sexy, and single. I was a liberated woman who believed in total equality (although I never picked up a dinner check), and I enjoyed a successful career as an author, journalist, TV and film producer. Although I had an exciting and glamorous lifestyle with apartments both in New York and Los Angeles, my love life affairs always ended badly, and with me in pain".

Through the years, I'd met and had relationships with many interesting and celebrated men, such as Donald Sutherland, Zubin Mehta and Norman Mailer, and a short marriage when I was in my early twenties to Larry Harmon, aka Bozo The Clown, (yes, the real Bozo), but none had led to a successful, committed relationship.

Now I had been in a difficult relationship for three years with a man I was deeply in love with. My boyfriend, a celebrated sculptor, said he loved me, but he wouldn't give me a commitment; I suspected him of being unfaithful, which he denied, and we fought much of the time. As he became elusive, I became obsessive, which I demonstrated in painful, self destructive ways. I knew I had to change.

I heard about a relationship seminar that had helped many of my friends. But when I went to the seminar, I heard what I believed to antifeminist philosophy; such things as, "Equality in a relationship doesn't work. There's a respected leader and a cherished follower. If a woman wants to be "feminine', she should never argue, criticize, or challenge a "masculine" man.

I was outraged. I felt I had landed at a school for Stepford Wives.. However as the seminar proceeded, and I considered what I was hearing, I began to understand the truth of what I was hearing. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I had been careening between being a strong, aggressive "male" who demanded equality and respect, and a warm, loving "female" who wanted her man to be generous protective and caring. By this definition, I was a "Narcissist," and unless I changed, I would end up alone. This was painful for me to acknowledge, even to myself, but I knew I was hearing the truth.

I began to devour all the literature on the subject I could find, and devoted most of the next year learning more. . I soon got the strength to make some major changes in my life; one of which was ending the painful relationship I was in, after learning that my lover had been cheating on me.

I also realized with absolute certainty that when I practiced my newly learned understanding of how men and women really related, things went wonderfully well in my love life, but when I reverted to some of my old ways, my romances turned into fights and competition and ultimately ended.

I began working on a book about these remarkable methods of finding and keeping love, and four years later, "Getting To I Do," was published. My goal was met. I was able to show women how to find and attract the right man, begin a healthy sexual relationship and get married, or at least engaged, by he end of the first year.

After the publication of "Getting To I Do,", hundreds of people wrote me to tell me that the book changed their lives. For that reason, I was asked to write the sequel, this time for couples who were in a relationship or marriage. "Staying Married and Loving It" was the next book, a manual for men and women who want to be in a marriage that works - physically, mentally and emotionally. In the years since these books were published, during which time I became a personal coach in the area of love, dating, sex and relationships, I am proud and happy to have worked with thousands of singles and couples who have found and kept a loving and committed romantic relationship or marriage after learning my techniques and practicing them their own way, in their own lives, based on their own needs and desires.

It's not difficult. You just have to learn a few of the rules. Why not email me at SHTVSHOW@aol.com or call me at 212.988.0269 and set up your FREE telephone consultation. I promise you, you won't be disappointed.