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ARE YOU THE WOMAN YOU THINK YOU ARE? - Quiz
"Before you to out there to attract a mate, decide whether you are the "male"
or "female" energy".
Check the letter, (a), (b), or (c), that most reflects the way you would behave in the situation. (Your answers are evaluated at the end of the question section.)
- You enjoy living alone because
(a) You don't have to deal with other people.
(b) You have more time to work.
(c) You enjoy the time it affords you after work, to please
yourself.
- You enjoy working more than playing because
(a) Playing is "feeling-centered" and you do not want to waste time.
(b) Work produces money with which you can exert influence and greater control.
(c) Your father expected performance from you and rewarded you with love.
- Your boyfriend likes to camp out and you don't. What do you do?
(a) Go along and be a good sport.
(b) Stay home because you do not want to go.
(c) Insist he give up his hobby.
- You like to masturbate, but your boyfriend feels insulted. What do you do?
(a) Maintain your right to please yourself when alone.
(b) Call him up when you want sex.
(c) Lie to him and allow both styles of sexual pleasure.
- You are in a relationship with an up-and-coming man and want to develop your own career, but he wants you to marry him and raise the kids. What do you do?
(a) Leave him and go off to pursue your career.
(b) Accept his direction as being best for your marriage.
(c) Say yes, and after you marry go back to your career priority.
- You have a boyfriend who is more powerful and successful than you are. What do you do?
(a) "Duke it out" with him for equality.
(b) Surrender to his leadership and fight only over ethical and moral issues.
(c) Keep him awhile to see if he will surrender to you, and if not, dump him.
- You have a fight with your gentle, feminine (energy) boyfriend, who then has a problem with impotence. What do you do?
(a) Accept him as he is and help him to feel safer and more relaxed.
(b) End the relationship and go on to the next man.
(c) Try to teach him with books and articles how to do it.
- You are engaged and in a dual-career relationship, but your live-in fiance expects you to do most of the housework, as his mom did. What do you do?
(a) Do it to prove you are better than Mom.
(b) Refuse to do more at home than he does, and fight with him about it.
(c) Negotiate a fair split of chores, or leave him until he is willing.
- Your boyfriend earns twice as much as you do but expects you to share 50-50 on dates. What do you do?
(a)Accept this 50-50 deal for all dates.
(b)Expect him to pay for everything.
(c)Compromise by each paying for dates you request of the other.
- You have a boyfriend and you travel a great deal for your work. What do you do about socializing with other men?
(a) Enjoy socializing non -sexually with men out of town with your boyfriend's acceptance.
(b) Do not socialize with men out of town because you are considerate of you're boyfriends possible hurt feelings.
(c) Secretly socialize with men out of town.
- Your boyfriend has been passed over for a promotion at his company. You are angry and disappointed for him. You have been invited to his company social event. What do you do?
(a) You go to the event, but you are so angry that after a few drinks, you confront the company executive about the wrong done your guy.
(b) You refuse to go to the event out of anger, even though it will reflect negatively on him.
(c) You go to the event and act like a supportive woman.
- You and your boyfriend work long hours during the week and have little time for sex. What do you do?
(a) Let him decide when to ask and say "No thank you" if you are too tired.
(b) Initiate it when you are feeling amorous.
(c) Negotiate to have sex only on weekends.
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ANSWERS
- You enjoy living alone because
(a) Narcissistic
(b) Male
(c) Female
Living alone to please you, and not to work more or avoid people self-love, therefore, feminine.
- You enjoy working more than playing because
(a) Male
(b) Narcissistic
(c) Female
Feelings don't count. Money does. Controlling your life is more important than having fun. If Dad wanted you to perform for his love, you will see performance as normal.
- Your boyfriend likes to camp out and you don't. What do you do?
(a) Male
(b) Female
(c) Narcissistic
Being able to say, "No thank you. I don't feel good about camping out," sets feminine boundaries for you without trying to control him with seductive generosity or intimidating demands.
- You like to masturbate, but your boyfriend feels insulted. What do you do?
(a) Female
(b) Make
(c) Narcissistic
Your body belongs to you first; therefore you have a moral right to please it. A man oversteps his bounds when he sets moral or ethical standards for you.
- You are in a relationship with an up-and-coming man and want to develop your own career, but he wants you to marry him and raise the kids. What do you do?
(a) Male
(b) Female
(c) Narcissistic
If you are a woman first and your career is second, follow him. If you are a career woman first, put your career first, but then find a feminine man who is wiling to be a Mr. Mom. Or stay single.
- You have a boyfriend who is more powerful and successful than you are. What do you do?
(a) Male
(b) Female
(c) Narcissistic
Intimacy requires compromise. Competing for "equality" is normal for singles but destructive in a relationship. Equitable exchanges enhance compatibility.
- You have a gentle, feminine (energy) boyfriend, who has a problem with impotence. What do you do?
(a) Female
(b) Male
(c) Narcissistic
A man's penis cannot be "taught." Create a safe harbor without giving instructions and make your body available. Nature will take its course, and you will either become lovers or end up as friends.
- You are engaged in a dual-career relationship, but your live-in fiance expects you to do most of the housework, as his mom did. What do you do?
(a) Male
(b) Narcissistic
(c) Female
You don't need to fight or capitulate. You need only to gently say no to what does not feel good to you. Either he will negotiate or he won't, and if he won't, you can end the relationship.
- Your boyfriend earns twice as much as you do but expects you to share 50-50 on dates. What do you do?
(a) Male
(b) Narcissistic
(c) Female
A tug of war over 50-50 is unromantic. Each of you deserves to date or be dated and have the tab paid by the initiator. Masculine men and women often initiate more dates than feminine men or women.
- You have a boyfriend and you travel a great deal for your work. What do you do about socializing with other men when you are traveling?
(a) Female
(b) Male
(c) Narcissistic
Trustworthy socializing with the opposite sex is a sign of inner security on both sides. Sexualizing is forbidden but not socializing. Ex lovers are dangerous as friends. Don't socialize with them.
- Your boyfriend has been passed over for a promotion at his company. You are angry and disappointed for him. You have been invited to his company social event. What do you do?
(a) Male
(b) Narcissistic
(c) Female
Respecting your man's right to take care of himself is feminine. Taking care of him is masculine. Make sure he agrees first.
- You and your boyfriend work long hours during the week and have little time for sex. What do you do?
(a) Female
(b) Narcissistic
(c) Male
If you're the "female" in the relationship, and you initiate sex verbally or physically, you run the risk of having sexual problems in your boyfriend's performance. You can say "no" to what you don't want, but you'd better have an agreement from him first before you place him in the female, receptive role.
If you have scored mostly MALE, decide if you really want to be the male. If you do, you must find a feminine man or woman. If not, you must CHOOSE to become more FEMALE.
If you have scored mostly FEMALE, you can mate with a masculine man or woman. Still, you should note where you have scored MALE and become more FEMALE in these areas, or risk conflict.
If you have scored mostly Narcissistic, decide whether you wish to be more MALE or FEMALE. If you don't choose to become either MALE or FEMALE, you will probably be unable to intimately mate.
MALENESS - Using logic primarily, and how you "feel" secondarily.
FEMALENESS - Using feelings primarily, and what you "think" secondarily.
NARCISSISTIC - Trying to use logic and feelings equally, which ultimately neutralizes both, and ends intimacy through competitive conflict.
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